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AWord_Fatherhood_2004.pdf| A Once and Always Father | Notes from a Dad |
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AWord_Fatherhood_2004.pdf |
An introduction for In A Word, the role of the father is crucial to his children; and for those parents who understand this fact, much appreciation and gratitude will be expressed in one |
| AlwaysFather_CoverDesign_12-14-09.pdf | The initial choice of color, or use of a stone background, symbolizes a monument or something permanent; so to add to the means of "once and always". The shaded lettering and sketch of the father and daughter is likewise to add to the effect of something permanent...carved in stone. |
| AlwaysFather_Storyboard_12-14-09.pdf | The storyboard is by no means complete; but will periodically be revisited as the story or writing unfolds. As should be the pattern, the storyboard now represents a first attempt at brainstorming for impulses of what the content and chapter should include; but again, could easily change during the development. |
| Introduction | The content of this developing book is not entirely my view, but is the expression and culmination of what I've learned from leading experts, support groups and my own experience; and is the plight of a non-custodial parent.... |
| AlwaysFather_LifetimeLiftingC1_12-17-08.pdf | "Lifetime Lifting" is a self-defined term for encouragement or support |
| AlwaysFather_CovenantCaringC2_12-19-08.pdf | "Covenant Caring" is a self-defined term for marriage as a binding promise |
| AlwaysFather_GondolaGrandC3_12-20-08.pdf | "Gondola Grand" is another term, this time of the the financial and intrinsic cost of |
| AlwaysFather_MazeMindingC4_12-22-08.pdf | "Maze Minding" is the navigation of marital roles and responsibilities in the changing |
| AlwaysFather_WindWatchingC5_12-24-08.pdf | "Wind Watching" is about change in our lives (and marriage) and how we respond (or |
| AlwaysFather_OarOverEasyC6_01-14-09.pdf | "Oar Over Easy" is a term that replies to basically "throwing in towel" and giving-up; maybe the |
| AlwaysFather_DemarcationDrawingC7_01-17-09.pdf | "Demarcation Drawing" is much more than the limits or constraints of life; but is the moving t |
| AlwaysFather_DivorceDraftingC8_01-27-09.pdf | "Divorce Drafting" is about the destructive nature of divorce to fatherhood and the children - while |
| AlwaysFather_WorldWeighingC9_01-29-09.pdf | "World Weighing" describes the post-divorce pressure of managing debt and and the loss of |
| AlwaysFather_DebtDesertingC10_02-05-09.pdf | If divorce was costly enough - both in monetary and intrinsic ways - the post-divorce life of |
| AlwaysFather_CastleKeepingC11_02-10-09.pdf | "A house is a man's castle"? When my oldest son was a young fellow, he liked castles and |
| AlwaysFather_FoeBefriendingC12_02-15-09.pdf | In approaching "the castle", the guard might ask "Friend or Foe?"; and for a father who use to |
| AlwaysFather_Ire-reflectionsIrritatingC13_02-25-09.pdf | A crisis offers the unique opportunity for a introspection – a reflection of yourself and what is important…maybe essential. |
| AlwaysFather_JuggernautJugglingC14_12-25-09.pdf | Like a juggernaut, divorce is an indomitable force – and it leaves an indelible mark; sadly, any good memories are easily overshadowed by the crisis – and the consequences that follow…and never end. |
| AlwaysFather_ScalesScalingC15_12-22-09.pdf | Aside from one attorney in family court, I have yet to find anyone remotely concerned about the children; but on the contrary, the children are the “co-lateral damage” of this court-based conflict. |
| AlwaysFather_NonNavigating16_12-24-09.pdf | Referring again to “Drawing Demarcations”, the lines are now enforceable (and regulated) by the law enforcement; and like a line from an old western, “You so much as flinch, and I blow your head off”, the dude is a dead-man walking. |
| AlwaysFather_FightFightingC17_12-26-09.pdf | If the estimates of your losses could never be determined, the restrained non-custodial must watch his first amendment rights go south. |
| AlwaysFather_UndoingUndoneC18_12-27-09.pdf | The conflict – even war – has taken an undetermined toil on my children because it is something they cannot forget. As I write this closing chapter, the possibilities are very predictable because, like the forces of nature, the aftermath of divorce leads to many losses for the children as children…and as adults. |
| AlwaysFather_WorthyWords_12-27-09.pdf | While sharing my personal war, I have become more aware of the large-scale war on the American family. As one ministry shared with me recently, and as reminded by Promise Keepers years ago, men are desperately needed to “stand in the gap” in the most critical crisis of our time, our society, and our culture. |
| AlwaysFather_ReservedResources_12-27-09.pdf | A work-in-process, Reserved Resources includes all applied and considered inputs from leading experts, support groups and my experiences, of course. |
| HKirkRainer_ParentsPlea_2009.pdf | At the inspiration that is often not fully understood, this posted essay is as much composed questions as commentary. The central question as the authority that makes law destructive - rather than supportive - of marriage and family. "The system" that punishes the innocent - and rewards those who dissolve marriage - is the essence of what enables and even encourages divorce over commitment. |
A
Once and Always Father
is
an idea that spawned from my long-term
Alienation
from my natural Children. Perhaps
the single greatest loss of my personal life has been this condition and, in
that, the most compelling reason to write – or d
evelop my writing
skills and express my feeling and interests.
The
ideal came in part over the consistent realization that my
place as a
father (or dad) will never change or degrade – but is Once and
Always. On
this ideal and a series of letters prefaced with “Plight of a Parent”,
I have embarked on the early stages of forming a manuscript; but there is
more to come…much more!
For
more information, please e-mail: alwaysfather@hkirkrainer.org
Last Edited: 06/05/2010