Making of a MAN

A Story  A Voice  A Reason 
IRONJOHN.pdf From the German-based Grimm's Tales, comes the tale of "Iron John"; the prince-boy is carried away by Iron John such that he may learn to be a man...
InAWord_Metal_2005.pdf What does it mean to be "tested by fire...or in the furnace"?   Metal is made when ore is purified in the fire - but how does that it apply to the person?   

Man_AboutStuWeber.pdf; Man_FourPillars_Weber.pdf

The Promise Keeper's Men's Movement; Stu Weber, "Four Pillars... of a Man's Heart"

When "making of a man" went wrong...

"Young Frankenstein" (1974):  "Throw the third switch...live, 

Man_AboutAlanRedpath.pdf; Man_TheMakingofManofGod_Redpath.pdf

"The Making of a Man (of God)" by Alan Repath:   a profile on the life of David (from the Bible); the book shows how we can learn...

InAWord_Pride_2005.pdf

If "pride comes before the fall"; than what comes before pride?  Maybe some realty coupled with humility...

InAWord_Reason_2005.pdf

Those who will not reason are bigots, those who cannot are fools and those who dare not are slaves; but slaves to what?   

InAWord_Virtue_2006.pdf

What is "virtue"; and why is it important?   "The greatest virtues are those which are most useful to other persons."  - Aristotle  

InAWord_Vises&Vices_2006.pdf

Whether vises or vices, the pressure can be extreme.   "Search others for their virtues, thy self for thy vices" - Benjamin Franklin 
The Measure of a Man    

Gene A. Getz, 2004:

Pastor and author at Fellowship Bible Church, Gene is taking us on a journey intended to teach and equip the man for what it means to be a man of God.  

MeasureMan_GeneGetz_2004.pdf

Gene writes:  "...becoming a man is not about perfection.   Rather, its admitting our mistakes and making decisions to correct those mistakes in the light of God's will for our lives."  

As a tribute, Bill McCartney (former football coach and founder of Promise Keepers) writes:  "this book will allow you to become open and vulnerable in the context of scriptural truth."  

Measure_CryHelp_05-11-09.pdf

Before the journey can get underway, the prospective sojourner must realize their need for Christ.   Remember that God gives each person a freewill...but also remember that God has a purpose for your life.  Choose the journey...for it will prove worthwhile.   
Measure_FaithfulMan_05-12-09.pdf The journey (or race) is not without struggle and challenges.   Oh, there can setbacks and many hurdles to jump...but also be injuries or circumstances that set you back.   Through the journey must be the understanding that God is in control...and knows what you are experiencing - and will experience for that matter.   
Measure_Reputation_05-17-09.pdf Why is a good reputation important and, among all the potential interests, who is the most important?   Let's look to Paul and Timothy on the matter of reputation...
Measure_MoralPurity_05-24-09.pdf Getz draws attention to the specific area of sexual purity; and to understand your natural desires is the first step toward embracing God's help through the challenging -  even daunting - experiences of sexuality, marriage and relationships.     
Measure_MaintainBalance_05-29-09.pdf Getz introduces the old word, "temperance" in association to "maintaining balance".   How does the believer maintain temperance while maintaining attention to the matters of the present world.  Can he do both; and if so, how?   Christ shows us how.... 
Measure_ManWisdom_06-12-09.pdf When you think about wisdom, what comes to mind?  Some say that wisdom is knowing how to use knowledge.   Let's discover something else about wisdom...
Measure_Adorning_06-25-09.pdf We are to live in a way that our lives are "becoming" to the teachings of the Word; but how do we live in the world...without being of the world?   
Measure_ColdWater_07-15-09.pdf The subject of hospitality seems to rarely come-up in the matter of manhood; yet, how important it is when considering that to welcome the least of these is to welcome Christ.   
Measure_Teach_08-11-09.pdf What are the qualities of a good teacher?  In the realm of Christianity, teaching is a gift - which means that it comes from God.   What makes the teacher want to teach?  
  9. "Avoiding Overindulgence"  
  10. "Overcoming Self-Centeredness"  
  11. "Don't Let the Sun Down" 
  12. "Never Resort to Violence"  
  13. "Becoming a Fair Minded Man"  
  14. "Blessed are the Peacemakers"  
  15. "Becoming a Generous Man"  
  16. "Reflecting our Heavenly Father" 
  17. "Loving what is Good"  
  18. "Being Just and Fair"  
  19. "Lifting Up Holy Hands"  
  20. "Becoming a Disciplined Man"  
The War Against Men     

Dr. Richard Hise, 2004:  the author is a marketing professor at Texas A&M; why then a book about men - and the provocative title of the so-called "war against..."?   To begin, he approaches the subject..

WarAgainstMen_mensdefense_2004.pdf

...as an academic style...or the kind of analytical and scholarly style that givens credence to the idea that when men lose, children lose too.  From cited sources (mensdefense.org) comes the posting (above) on the book.   Dr. Hise believes that an imbalance in the courts and legislatures has put society out-of-balance, and that the long-run consequences of this war will be more injurious to our country than dangers posed by terrorists.     

In his preface, Dr. Richard Hise rolls-out the book, chapter by chapter, in the scholastic nature of his profession but with the passionate nature of a father, husband and man who...

AgainstMen_Preface_06-24-09.pdf

...is vividly aware of the trends, issues and developments warranting the described "war".   What to do -- but to engage in the war and to fight for the right to be a father, husband and man.   

To understand the magnitude of the war on males is to consider that this threat is more devastating than terrorism.   In his research, Dr. Hise became increasingly concerned with the calculated causes for a powerful AgainstMen_WorldC1_07-09-09.pdf

and pervasive war against men.   On his increasing awareness, a plan of action - both personal and political - is needed to counter the war - it's objectives, etc.   

Being a man is tough - according to Dr. Hise.  Why, you might ask?  Part of this challenge comes in what I call combinations (of demands on a man's life or living)   AgainstMen_BeingC2_07-17-09.pdf

...combinations or demands on life that will test your value system -- that will challenged your personal integrity, morals, ethics...what you believe to be right...

"Are women and men the same?"  Seems like a ridiculous question, but before jumping to that conclusion, consider chapter 3 as the author uses much statistics to support the initiatives  AgainstMen_TheSameC3_08-05-09.pdf

...to blur the lines (of the sexes), and to emphasis that men and women are not identical.  As to being equal, is that the real purpose behind feminism - or is it more?   

Once again asserting was is understood, Dr. Hise takes the reader through some data and commentary to support the growing powerbase women in America.   What is the significance?     "Women and Power" 
The Decline of Men    

Guy Garcia, 2007:  as a writer, author of  two fictional and one other non-fiction book among many publications, Guy delivers this timely message about men and our culture.   Don't let the cover fool you, this trend is anything but comical...

Rosenthal_Garcia_DeclineofMen.pdf

An interview by Robert Rosenthal (reprinted from adage.com) was posted in the Spring 2009 issue of The Liberator (acfc.org).  The posting contains some pointed Q&A on this troubling trend of our culture.  Why are young men and boys falling behind? - is an issue that troubles (or should trouble) our society.    The leaf of the book includes the statement:   Their confusion (young men) has led to rampant male malaise, which has left many men feeling alienated and disconnected.  

A somewhat aged article from World Net Daily offers a snapshot of the present day trend of the "swinging pendulum" of sexist advantage;   

WND_PendulumMen_06-30-09.pdf

Guess what?  "Yep, men are losing their grip" (boy's too); "Lord, help my boys..".

     

"When God wants to do an impossible task, he takes an impossible man, and he crushes him."  

- Alan Redpath, The Making of a Man of God, 1962    

When my oldest son was much younger, say about eight, I read from portions of Iron John by Robert Bly.   For the reader's benefit, this classic book about men (or a male's maturity) captures a theme that maturation involves some level of grief.  

Grief is not really a pleasant circumstance - whether pondering the possibility or realizing it's presence - but is part and parcel an inadvertent, though unwanted, place that one must and should visit according to Bly; for only through grief, can the male develop feelings and sensitivity - and thereby overcome the violent and aggressive nature toward a path to know and defend what one (man) truly loves...or whom he truly loves.    

Recently, a radio program offered the comments of a pastor, Robert Lewis, speaking on the subject of the "modern male" in our culture.   When the male is raised in a predominately-female environment, the tendency is for the male to become either very passive or very aggressive.   This tendency, which he referred to as "disfiguring masculinity", manifests in many cases - according to his understanding, and can certainly be the case where the father (of the male children) is distant or non-existent in the child's life.  Considering the growing disparity of fathers in the child's life - or the failings of fatherhood - the male child is at ever-increasing risk of these two extremes.   Of course, this social crisis and commentary does not mention the ill-effects created for the female child or children.   Needless to say, the child or children suffer regardless of gender...  

I have created this Web page to try to convey my understanding and experience in what constitutes "The Making of a Man".  Where my words or understanding may offer even the slightest benefit and direction, than it was all well worth it - even before it actually begins.    The scriptures instruct parents to "raise-up the children in the way they should go" and also to, "nurture and instruct" their children - so as to, again, guide them in the way.   With this instruction, I continue...

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Last Edited:  08/21/2009